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segelov


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What sort of responsibility do we have towards others in our quest for the truth about our abuse?  If we know that we will hurt innocent bystanders should we tell?  I feel that yes we must tell becasue abusers go on to hurt some other bystanders. I do not believe that most abusers ever stop abusing.  My mother went on to abuse the next generation, because she could not "help" herself.  She never learnt how much she hurt us all - and she never will.  Gosh I hate that woman, and I see her everyday in the mirror!


However I have been castigated for doing so because I destroyed the image of the father of one of my sisters whom she had never met, and I had no right to do this to her!


Can't win can I.



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leckie


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hi seaglove


it is rite that you tell and yes someone will get hurt but it is not you that is hurting them its truth and learning the unknown we cant realy help who we hurt along the way its not as if you are saying this to deliberatly hurt people the abuser is the one that is hurting them if your abuser had not abused you then there would be nothing to tell,so please dont be hard on yourself for this i know it is hard hurting inocent people but it was not your fault it hapened just give it time someone will come to you even if it is to find out about what you have told them then hopefully it will get sorted out


take care john



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amanda


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Hi Segelov


I agree with John we have a responsibility to ourselves and others if they hadn't abused then they would not be named innocent people often get hurt but that is nothing to reproach yourself about.


When you look in that mirror you need to start seeind a good kind caring women you are not like your mother and don't ever believe different


Take care Amanda



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Lark


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Hi Segelov
I dont think they mean to castigate you. It's probably the shock talking and they need time to digest. You've done the right thing and they may need some time to realise that.
Thinking of you
Lark


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