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Not sure I can write this but if I don't I know it going to drive me further down.  I have just received a phone call from a friend who told me that an aunt is celebrating her 80th birthday this week.  Not a big deal you might think, other than she is the one person I know is in constant contact with my sis@@@, one of my ab   r.  Well it turns out that there is to be a big family party which she has been invited to.  Although she lives abroad she is the type of person who would use my aunt's party to put in an appearance, win brownie points, hurt me even more.  My friend is shocked that I had not been invited then realised that it is probably because she has invited my sis@@@.  I don't care I have not been invited but the fact that she may be in this country scares me silly. 


 


I am not in a good place now and I don't need this kind of pressure.  Don't know whether to ring aunt and ask question or try and ignore whole situation but know it will freak me out not knowing which part of the world she is in.


 


Feel she is right here in the room with me tonight yelling abusing hurtinggggggggg sorryy this is so bad.


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claudine


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gosh, numb,


I'm sorry that you're under that pressure! uhhg family politics, good intentions, all rubbish! how long until the event takes place? How about inviting a close friend to stay for the wkend? I doubt you'd hear anything from other family that would make you feel better unless maybe they're aware and VERY sensitive to the issues.  I can relate to the fear, I feel a bit better when other people are around.


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Hi Numb


How about doing what is going to make you as safe as possible? That seems to be what is most important right now. I know how fightening it can feel knowing 'that ' person is around - I remember thinking that wherever my stepfather was in the world I was not safe.


Do what is right for you. You are the most important person in this. Get as much support and protection as you can.


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just know I don't need this right now.  so scared tonight feels like she is here now right now


 


the event takes place next Friday in my home town, I live 90 miles away.  But still I am scared that she may be in the country.



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my heart goes out to you numb


sorry cant say to much to you on this as i know i will never see my abuser again as the b****** is dead, but you sis is not here just now and preobibally wont turn up till thursday so please try to relax a bit you will just get yourself int a such a state darlin and she is not worth it try and get away for the weakend or stay with a friend so you are not on your own sorry am not much help all those f****** abusers should be put on an island untill we are ready to confront them or they should be shot for doing this to us


sorry numb i am angrey at the moment


please take care


john x >>>>>>>>>O<<<<<<<<< big hugs and xxxxxxxxxx i am thinking about you



-- Edited by leckie at 22:53, 2004-10-10

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numb,


i know your scared, and i am aware that you will be making yourself worse as the week wears on, keep in contact with us and we will keep talking you through the week.


as already mentioned, you need to think of you, you need to make yourself safe. have someone stay or go away with someone for a few days if thats possible.


know that you are not alone, we are here, but unfortunately we are only here in thoughts and spirit, please find someone to help you whilst she is here.


stay safe numb. you are in my thoughts


jane



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