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hazel


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so last week a ew housemate moved in (i live in a student house) who im not sure i like. i live with 3 lads, one of them's my boyfriend and it's pretty tough sometimes.


my grandad died, he didn't abuse me and was a good man so im gutted. on the same day i found out i had an argument with my boyfriend and he said i was using my grandad's death to get at him!!!


then i broke my mobile and lost all phone numbers!


had another argument with my boyfriend and he dumped me, in the pub!


we've kind of made up now but im so wrung out i cant think straight. im doing a degree, i need to get a job because im short of money and i havent had a chance to feel sad about my grandad because other stuff keeps getting in the way.


what i want is my own place, with a dog so that i can think and look after myself. no chance of that because im on a contract at the house and am here for another 9 months...


sorry that was a real rant but i just feel im sinking uder all this stuff


Hazel x



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hazel,


im so sorry about your grandad, you seem to be having one h*ll of a hard time at the moment. as for ranting, come here and do it anytime, i for one think its the one of the best and safest places to do it.


can you take some you time, focus on yourself, let your boyfriend do his thing whilst you go off and do yours? how are you expected to do a degree and keep everyone happy if you cant make you happy. i couldnt do a degree with or without what your dealing with!


its hard for our partners to understand what we deal with in our heads, thats why i come here, mine cant/wont talk with me, so i come here knowing there is always someone who will. that is unbelievably good, knowing people will listen, and not because its their job! (councellors etc) i personally have found a place i can be honest and i hope you will find it the same.


take care of you, stay safe


jane



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Hey Hazel,


wow, you have alot to deal with right now. Sometimes an understanding professor can take a little pressure off, and share your grief about your Grandad with someone who also cared about him, that you trust. It helps.(I hope there is someone like that).


I'm sorry you're having such a tough time. hang in there


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hazel


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thanx for your support guys it really helped, though to be honest as more than 20 people looked at my post i must admit i was expecting a little more in the way of support but thats par for the course these days


thanx again, things are alot better now...


hazel x



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claudine


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Hey-zel (ha-good one)


I know how you feel, I have a few floating out there for a few days now. It's hard to not take it personally. I'm glad things are a little better. I think sometimes people just don't know what to say and so say nothing. Not a good excuse, I know. keep posting and private message me if you want


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Hi Hazel


sorry for your loss but am pleased things are improving I actually thought I had posted too you its the old short term memory and my lack of computer skills I have worked out that if I do not submit post it disappears


Take care


amanda



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