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segelov


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Is it selfish to want time for myself to sort out my feelings from a previous life? (it was so long ago that I was that frightend hurt little child, who was not allowed to be a child, just a pawn in the lives of others)


I now live another life, a life where there are others dependent on my being strong, so why now that I am physically starting to "not cope" ( I suffer from all sorts of stress related problems especially IBS, now it includes being physically sick as well as continous nauseau - but having an excellent GP, there is  nothing wrong with me except the stress according to all the tests) my anger with the past is getting worse, it is invading my dreams again.  Logically I know that once I am used to the new routines it will all settle down again, but the new routine means less time, and the need for more sleep.  But I do feel so guilty because I am posting here, because I am thinking about things that I may never be able to resolve instead of just getting on with what needs to be done now.


So what is the answer?? Counsellors work fixed hours, there is absolutely nothing for people in my situation?  Even GPs now work fixed hours, I have great difficulty getting appointments to work in with my life.


So what happens to those of us who have a past that needs dealing with and a present and future that is full of overwhelming commitment?  How long can one continue putting the genii back into the bottle?


Sorry if this has upset any one - at the moment I feel as if I am not coping even with the minutiae of everyday life.


Take care everyone


 


 



-- Edited by segelov at 11:55, 2004-10-02

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Sue


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Hi Seglov,


I just replied and congratulate you for becoming Granny again, and it scares me to be one soon. Does it feel good to write here and sometime after one of us replys? So do it. We all have the same or some kind of stress. It really feels great when I am down to take some time and check what the survivors wrote lately. When I post something while boiling inside it turns into positive thinking after writing HI because I feel something like talking to friends. When I finish the world is waiting for me to do something positive, that is why I want to thank everyone here. So, do not hesitate to speak and in this case write what you feel and soon you will feel better.


Take care


Sue



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amanda


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Hi segelov


Don't feel guilty about posting and you are not selfish we can see that by the way you have put your family first especially your daughter who is not well the love you have for your family oozes out in your posts.  You do need time for yourself to explore your past as it is beginning to consume you as you say when you are in dire need therapists etc are not around at least here is always open and posting can be a great release.


It would be interesting to know how many of us have illnesses that indirectly are connected to our past I was interested that you have IBS because I have crohns and that flares up when my stress levels are high


Take care and keep posting


Amanda


 



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