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liz


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Hi there


It's going to be a very long 3 weeks because my therapist is now away on holiday.  As an adult I know he needs holidays just like the rest of us - but my last appointment with him on Friday was so difficult.  Even before the session  I was dreading him not being there (if that makes sense!)  I've been working with him for 5 months now and have built up good levels of trust and safety. 


The child bit of me struggles big time with his absence.  Abandonment all over again.  My levels of support outside therapy are limited.  I have friends but it's hard to share with them and anyway I don't want to burden them or  generally be a pain.  Don't want to be too needy.  I feel so alone and wonder just how I'm going to get through these next 3 weeks? 


I feel in desperate need of hugs, just someone to be there to ease this overwhelming aloneness. 


Thanks for reading this.  



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ellie


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liz,


glad u have found this forum, just come here and write and people will respond and reply.  The support i have felt from this forum has been fantastic.  My couseller was away over christmas and it was awful but that was before i found this site.


Recently though i have had trouble accessing the internet and i almost started to have a panic attack because i couldnt log onto HAVOCA!!!


Take care


ellie



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jane


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liz,


since ive started coming here i have felt more supported than ever. i have little of it at home, so havoca has been somewhere i come, just to read or to get things out of my head. there is always someone that will know how you feel amd will reply to anything you post. when you feel low, if there is noone else to talk to come here and you will be listened to and understood.


i have only just returned to councelling, so the whole process has been hard, to lose that comfort zone for a period of time will be difficult, but you will be heard here.


take care, stay safe


jane



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liz


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Thanks Ellie for taking the time to reply.  It means alot - what an understatement! - to know people here understand and are able to respond. 


I think I have to take this next 3 weeks just one day at a time.  Maybe even less than that.  It helps this week maybe that I'm working for most of it so will have to concentrate on other things for a while which at least will give me a break of sorts..  


It's just dead scary to know there isn't the support of this therapist for now.  BUT, it's so good tknow that I can gain support here.  Sometimes I log in and feel disappointed if there isn't a post for me.  SAD I guess.  It's just where I am at the moment.  Just like the small child I was all those years ago.  


Take care, keep safe and thank you



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liz


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Hi Jane


Thanks for replying and giving me some much needed support.  Makes so much difference to know I'm heard here.  Helps me feel a little less alone.  And I'm grateful for the support that's here.  I log on to havoca and know that there are people out there who know what I'm talking about.  I don't have to start at square 1.  And I can be me.  No-one's going to judge me or think less of me or wonder why I'm not 'better' now. 


I wish you well on your journey.   



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Hi Liz


my psychiatrist is on Vacation too. I have his number but I know I will not call him unless there is no other way. I have his wife's cellphone number too (She assist him). I just make every morning a plan for the day to keep me really busy and sometimes nothing goes according to the plan because I do something else. It does not matter but I always have something to do. With the weather here in Vienna-Austria turning gray, I stay home and watch T.V. or read if not cleaning, washing or cooking.


I think you will find something to keep you busy or read from the forum because we all are here with you. You are not alone, we care about you. Sue 



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Hi LIz


Just really suporting what every one else has said I have for the first time felt that I am not on my own and when the thoughts get so muddled I lose it this forum and the people on it give me the support I need.


Hope I an others can do the same for you especially over these next three weeks


Amanda



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michelle


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Liz,


Don't feel alone my therapist is gone for 3 months. I found out 2 days before my appoinment. I have 2 months to go and counting.He had to leave on his own personal issues.


I thought I was going to die NOT LITERALLY. I have been going to him for 3 and a half years.I am going to another one right now he's ok.I truly understand the bond one can establish with your therapist.I trust mine more than anybody more than my husband.My husband knows that he's ok with it.


Honestly I wish I had just 3 weeks these 3 monthes are pure torture. I know you FEEL the same also.Mine is suppose to be back around Thanksgiving so thats what I'm living for.


GOOD LUCK I defiantly FEEL your PAIN.


MIchelle   



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