So many of you write about your feelings you carry inside.I myself do not understand this.When I was living in the physical abuse I cried all the time and felt so alone.But as the years have past I feel nothing know pain or the extreme anger you all talk about.I did feel some anger when I was in the 9 grade but that was years ago.
My therapist has even had me write a letter to my dead mother who was my abuser no feelings there.My mother pasted away kinda young I do remember feeling a great relief when she died.Really I was happy I thought she got what she deserved DEATH.
I consider myself a very nice and kind person.I can truly feel everyones pain but some how I cannot connect with my own.Truthfully I do not know if I won't to have the anger so many of you talk about.
In know way am I judging any one for there feelings I'm just trying to get a better understanding of how our emotions are.
I have come to learn so much from this website and I am trying to get a better understanding of myself.And maybe one day I also will be able to connect with my own personal feelings like so many of you have.
I have the same experience as you about feelings. There was one stage in my life where I could only feel negative feelings, and even those were mild. Anything good in my life just happened with no good feelings to go with it. I may not be a good example, but I have realized that I suppressed any good feelings I had because I was such a "bad" person, and did not deserve anything good. The bad feelings were suppressed because expressing them would lead to punishment.
Since that realization, I have slowly started to feel more, at the moment it is more the negative feelings, but even so they are there. I am sure there will be a point where your unconcious will feel it is safer to express how you feel, and the feelings will come.
One thing I have learnt to accept is that I may feel something, but I may not even know what it is. This is because my feelings were not acknowledged by my parents, and often I was told that I didn't feel "happy", "sad", or "angry", which means I am not able to always identify what it is I am feeling. When this happens in therapy I have to try explain the physical feelings as a reaction to whatever we were talking about, and then she will try to identify it for me.
I am certain that you will be able to sort out your feelings, they will emerge in time.
hi michelle i used to be pretty numb and thought i didnt feel anything for myself too. i hardly cried and felt generally emotionless for a long time. it took quite alot of digging for me to find the vunerable side of myself and like you i didnt think i wanted too because it doesnt seem all that appealing but i also felt i was only living a half life, like i was seeing the world from inside my little bubble and was never really part of it. thats why i kept digging around inside myself to find what other pepole told me was there, feelings. i thought i wouldn't find anything but i sure did.
and wow what a shock to find that i was real after all, it was both positive and negative. yea i get upset and hurt now and i sure do get angry but these feelings give me a chance to look after myself which is great because no-one can love me like i do. the other upside is the happy feelings, i really feel them now not just echoes of them. im at university now doinng fine art and i wouldnt be able to do it without all of my feelings, good and bad because now i can really create something whereas back then i had nothing to express.