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I am so angry I found myself today in a situation I was totally uneasy with and instead of leaving before I lost control I sat dumb struck and relied on my back up system. 


Why when things get difficult do I panic and allow them to deal with the matter.  All the work on retaining control with my therapist goes out of the window.


I am so ashamed why do I do this why cant I take responsibility for what is going on I shrink back and quake like that stupid girl I am 


Amanda 



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our back up systems are there for a reason, because we developed them as children to survive and then continued  to use them for years because it was felt safe. if you have been reacting to certain situations in the same way for years your expecting an awful lot of yourself to change things overnight. but the first step to changing how you behave is recognising what the things that need changing are. give yourself a pat on the back for being able to recognise what's going on because thats a really important step. the rest will come.


be gentle with yourself, these things take time


Hazel x



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