Anger

bluebell · Newbie

Anger

amanda · Experienced Member

Hi Bluebell

You still have control don't be ashamed I also have these rages it is a part of my life I have no control over at present but am working in therapy with. I use an anger pad in which I scribble and scribble until the sheer anger inside subsides at one time I would cause myself harm so this is a progression with me its hard work but it may work for you I also go to the sea and throw the stones at the water as hard as I can

sorry I can be of no more help

Take Care

Amanda

HAVOCA · Trustee

Hi

Thanks for sharing.

I too used to have really bad 'rages', like a fire was inside me and it was out of control. I would snap at the smallest thing.

I'm not sure where you are in your healing experience right now, but I found after working through issues and taking part in therapy, I slowly had less and less rages.

That isn't to say I didn't and still don't get angry. I have a lot of anger inside me about the abuse. Today I can control it by acknowledging it and knowing why I feel the way I do. Feeling angry and being justified in doing so is an important step towards healing.

Have you read the anger pages on the site? Find them here - it's worth a look even if I do say so myself

Warm regards

Jamie

bluebell · Newbie

hi amanda

thank you for replying. i do write (as if possessed!) a lot of the time but didnt see this as a good way of dealing with my anger (as it usually comes after i have done the damage - either to myself or someone else) but now you've pointed it out, maybe i do have a 'tool' there and just need to make sure i implement it before rather than 'after' !!

thanks for that and take care

bb

leckie · Senior Member

hi all

i used to have rages as well but it was usually when i did not want to face up something i would get pretty angry with jill when she brought a subject up that i could not deal with so i usually walked away from her to stop myself getting to angry but she said i was just running away but i just went away to calm down

but now i do relise that jill was right yes i was running away as i could not face the truth plus i had so much shame and hatred formyself but thankfully i do not do that anymore i face up to what is there and what i have done now and verry seldome loose it now

take care all

john