Mine all mine

Joshua · Member

Mine all mine

segelov · Experienced Member

Hello Joshua

Now that you have your shiny new "forum", do you have any ideas how I can persuade a doctor that I am in desperate need of help. In fact any one who reads this what can I use as an argument to actually find myself some help - OK I could print of a large amount of my posts from here and put them in her lap - but the answer will still be that all I am suffering from is stress overload.

I can make a very long list of behaviours over the years that show that I do have mental health issues, but apart from an occasional person who had an inkling of understanding the rest see that I have survived to a particular point and my cry for help is dismissed as attention seeking or all you really need is a good holiday, or time to yourself for a little self indulgence, etc. etc.

Does this make any sense?

regards

segelov

amanda · Experienced Member

Well Josh

I am feeling very naughty at the moment and as I have been in the so called mental health system for so long with so many different diagnosis I could paper the bathroom I am going to share your forum.

I can feel we are going to cover some good topics that couldn't have been covered in other sections

Segelov from my experience these so called professionals put our problems down to all kinds of outside factors but appear unaware that our *b*s* is the primary cause. I know that the life I led has caused me to have the problems I have but no one listens.

Why do these so called professionals not take what happened to us seriously why won't they listen

Well Josh thats my rant I enjoyed gate crashing

Take care

amanda

Joshua · Member

i would need to know a lot more than that, and even then what i think.... does it matter? im not a shrink or doctor just worked and lived with mental health for a while.

amanda

GET OUT!!!!!!!!! its mine all mine. LOL give us a kiss , actually no dont get out lol.

Lark · Senior Member

Segelov
For starters if you need to actually persuade your doctor you need help then you need a new doctor! I feel so sorry that you have had to put up with such unsupportive support. It is shameful that your doctor is not helping you and shrugging you off. You deserve better and there are doctors out there who will help you properly withiout you needing to convince them.
If you cant change doctors right now you could consider these:
Does your doctor know of your past? They need to know a least a little. You could go to them with lists of problems and posts from here like you said but you could also go through with them what you have tried in the past for example, having a holiday, taking medication, exercise, counselling etc and then tell them these things have not worked for you and THEN ask them if there is anything else you could try.
Do you know much about cognitive behavioural therapy? You work with a counsellor on specific problems no matter how small they appear to be and most of the time you dont even need to delve into your past.

-- Edited by Lark at 08:08, 2004-10-19

angel eyes · Veteran Member

I need help, I've gone to my doctor with depression loads of times, but he always gives me a blood test, Ive got and iron deficiency and he always says it's due to that, I asked him to refer me to a phychiatrist but he said it isn't worth it as it could go against me if I try for certain jobs, what does that supposed to mean? I think I'm crazy, and i'm quite serious now, I do and think crazy things, if me and my partner have an arguement I'll get so angry I'll physically beat myself up and no word of a lie I've given myself concussion and when i went to hospital they asked who did it and cos i was in a crazy state of mind i just clearly said i did it to my self , they called the shrink and spoke to me for half hour which did no good at all just brought stuff to the surface and discharged me with all these memories in the front of my mind, I feel like I need to beg for help is there any tablets I can take or someone I can talk to ?????????? day to day things wind me up so much the smallest thing can make me feel like having a break down going mental or worst feel like killing myself ( which I'm not going to do).

sorry to go on

angel eyes

Lark · Senior Member

Hi Angel Eyes
Sometimes the doctor will just say something to give you more time to think it over.
I think maybe some jobs require perfect mental health (Like the army or police force- I'm not too sure you would have to ask someone in your country).
If you go back and say 'Look I've been thinking about what you said and I still feel that I'm at a point where I need more help- I need to see a psychologist/psychiatrist regardless of what it does to my future career prospects.'
A lot of the time the doctor is not trying to stop you from doing something- just making sure it's what you really want.
There are lots of jobs that wont judge you if you have been to a psychiatrist and I live in Australia but I'm pretty sure you dont even have to mention it most of the time- whatever country you're in.
I had iron and b12 deficiency for a time and it did make a difference so I know what he is talking about but it didnt go away after I was treated so I know how you feel!
Did you take iron tablets or injections or anything?
Post back soon!
Lark

angel eyes · Veteran Member

yes I took iron tablets, but i didn't see a dramatic change in my mood but it did help with the tirdness I must admit, I will go back, I dont think I'm coming across clear enough, I make my problems seem so trivial, and at the moment I need some help because I scare myself sometimes and I've got three lovely children who I need to be here for. I'm just finding it so hard being a good mum, I've got so much to do during the day and then I work at night I just cant seem to cope i feel like signing myself into a mental hospital!

The last bloods I had done were fine, perhaps my irons really low again and thats why I'm so down lately, but I know there's more to it than that I'm ill upstairs!!

thanks lark

take care of yourself

Angel eyes