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ratty · Member

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Frog · Experienced Member

Hi Ratty,

Not an easy one, but I beleive, we all have our times when we find someone, or are able to cope, even if it is for awhile and then we have another bad time. I don't really now I anot sure.

But I beleieve you will somewhen, when it's the right time, you will find someone who understands you and loves you.

I don't really now what to say, but just that we are here for you.

Sending big hugs, an thinking of you

Frog

liz · Experienced Member

Hi Ratty

We're here for you. Someone will always be awake when others are not. 24/7 people will respond. Talk when you want to - no-one will judge you here.

We're a friendly bunch of people. we're there for each other. You'll find warmth and acceptance and hugs here.

Good on you for being at uni - what course are you doing? You might find further support through your tutors, or student health..... just a thought.

take care (((((((((((((((ratty))))))))))))))

liz x

claudine · Moderator

hey ratty,

when somebody cheats on you, and blames you, something is going on with that person, not you, they just know what buttons to push. I was always look upon as the strong one too, and I liked it that way, hate falling to pieces, but I think it's too much of an act, we have to admit to the painful stuff. I admitted to seeking therapy to one of my brothers and he said, 'What? Not You!' like he was disappointed in me. Oh, well. It felt rotten then but now I see it was his problem. I think it scared him.

The cheating is a harsh way to find out the relationship isn't working. But you didn't do the wrong thing, she did.

c

ouchzone · Experienced Member

Hi ratty

That's really tough. I think some people just can't handle it. I have trouble handling some issues because of the abuse damage and people get upset and angry with me because I can't support them when they need it. I don't mean to hurt them but when I reach the limit I have to protect myself.

I still think sleeping with someone else instead of explaining to you is not nice. Since trust is so hard to do when you get a blow like this it makes it extra hard. Something you can ill afford. Sorry I'm not putting this too well. Glad you've got your studies. Hope you meet someone soon who can be supportive.

ouch