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liz


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Hi there Everyone


In reply to another posting elsewhere I thought this might be a good question.  


We talk about healing and yet I wonder what we all mean by it.  Obviously it's going to mean different things for us all.    


I don't think it's an end product.  I don't think we'll wake up one day and think 'yes I've been healed'.  I think there are smaller steps along the way.  Healing from anything long term like abuse or grief is a process.  


For me and I guess for lots of you too - this forum is part of our healing.  I keep saying it and probably will for some time to come - but I can't get over just how much I've received from being a part of this forum.  It's made such a huge difference in just a small space of time.  I belong to something.  I fit in.  I'm not an outsider here.  


The pain and loss and grief and fear and all that are still there but when I've shared something of my pain I feel heard.  That is healing.  Not complete healing but a step on the way.  To have something of my pain  acknowledged by others and to be validated is something very profound.  


Not sure i've finished with this one but will stop for now.....


With thanks to you all for being a part of my healing journey.


liz x    



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jane


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good post liz,


what do i define healing as?


im not sure what its meant to mean, but my hope is that i have a life, where im happy and can function without it affecting me totally. i cant get rid of my history, it is actually part of me, but i want it to be just that, my history, not what defines me now.


i agree with the fact that this site is an enormous help in the process, acknowledgement and support given by others is great.


they are my hopes for the future.


jane



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Frog


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Hi Liz,


A great post and topic!


I think for me, as my good friend and I often dicusss this that it is acceptance, accetance that it has happened.


I think once I can accept it happened I can really begin to get on with my life more.


But I think your right when you say we wont wake up one day and it will all begone, I think it will always be there, but the pain as we go one will lessen.


Frog



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segelov


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Hello Liz


This is a biggy! and requires a little thought.  I do not see healing as an end point as what we have suffered and are still suffering is like a chronic illness, and as most chronic illnesses it is very seldom that "healing" is achieved. To me it seems that  you have to treat the pain, and then the underlying problems and as in chronic illnesses there are flareups from time to time, and as you say it is lots of small steps. And one of those steps is to have others acknowledge your suffering and the cause of your suffering, and this is why this place is so wonderful - it seems to me that for a lot of us we have been searching for others to acknowledge and have some idea of what we are suffering. I knew that there were other who had suffered similar and or worse in this world, reading did this for me, but how to get the "professionals" to take me seriously has always elluded me. The professionals seem not able to cope, and here in the UK you certainly have to jump through hoops to get any help.  I will have to think further on this topic and get back to it later.


Take care


Segelov



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amanda


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Hi Liz


I look upon healing as my journey forward where one day I will live happily and healthily alongside my past history not living in constant fear,anger and where rage and hate motivates me where I will be able to accept myself withput feeling disgust at what I see one day I hope to be free I am not sure what I mean by that but to be released from the agony of my past I want to know people accept me listen to me and more importantly understand me


I think I have rambled a bit I know inside what I am trying to say


amanda



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