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Frog


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Hi All,


Me again, I find it hard to admit that I need help! there I said it. And I do right now.


I am so scared to write see incase anyone ever reads it who knows me, if someone found out that I am Frog and that I am am who I am if that makes sense.


I am scared of my mum and dad, always have been, I am so scared it was them, who abused me, and I feel so awful for saying this I really feel so apphesive, becuase if I am wrong, what an awful thing to acuse someone of.


I wish I knew, and I keep wavering I wish I knew and then I think I don't want to know. but right now I want to know, but I live at home with them still. Moved back after my marriage broke down. It was ok for awhile but know it gets worse and worse.


Mum always says goodnght and hugs me and kisses me on the check, sometimes it's nice to have a hug from her and sometimes I can't stand her touching me. sometimes I feel she wants to kiss me on the lips. Oh god this is so so awful, the pain it hurts so much. I don't know what the truth is, if I am over reacting.


at these bad times, the days go by and I have day dreams I suppose is the only way I am can describe it although it;s like a daynitmare, I think someone we attack me. If I am home alone with my dad for instance, but nothing has happened that I remeber. he won't even hug me or come into my bedroom whihc I have to say is good for me.


I am sorry can't say anymore I am to scared, that someone will work out who I am.


Frog



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Dear frog,


I must have just missed you posting this last night.  Im proud of you that you posted and asked for help beacause thats  always difficult.


Im really sorry that this is so painful for you and that you are finding it difficult to  know if you can move on and get the answers that you need. It can be so frustrating at times but you will get there.  Please continue to post and let us know how you are feeling, dont let the fear of somebody finding out who you are get in the way of that.  I think most of us have this sort of fear and sometimes the panic sets in.


I am thinking of you and hoping that this intense feeling  will ease a little, we are all here and care about how you are doing. Let us know and do something nice today and take extra special care of yourself.


You have always had kind supportive words for me frog, i hope you can get some comfort from these.


ellie



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Hello Frog,


I too am sorry that I missed your posting last night.  I am thinking about you, amd I know that everyone here is doing the same.


Take care


segelov



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frog,


i am sorry you are feeling so bad.


please try not to worry that you will be identified, i have this worry alot, but what i tell myself is why would my abuser be here on this site, it really wouldnt cross his mind. his family dont believe me, so they wouldnt be on a site like this, and my sister doesnt care, so she wouldnt. i think we are overly sensitive regarding people we know reading and identifying us. yes people surf, but would the people you know, come to a site like this if they had no need for it.


you need to believe in yourself, if you have memories, then believe in them, i know it must be hard, but you are a good kind person and i believe in every word you say, you must do the same.


we are here for you as you go down this path, you will never be alone. dont be too fearful frog, we are with you.


thinking of you


jane



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Frog


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Hi Guys,


Your Support is so wonderful, I can't post anymore right now I just wanted to say thank you, I am abit emtional tonght and don't want to break into tears as I can't cos I am at home sounds odd I know but they would be to many questions.


I am okay though, honestly, I am not brillant but I am an will be ok.


My friend is well again now and I will see him next week he's like a therpist to me and a wonderful supportive friend, and it will cheer me up beyond belief to see him. I know he will give me a great big hug and tell me alls ok.


Thanks guys


Frog



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ellie


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Hi frog,


glad you posted, it must be so difficult keeping a lid on things when you are at home.  I hope that this situation will change for you soon ( i know you are working on it) because it sounds like you need your own space.


Hey, your friend sounds very special, keep hold of him tight and dont let go!


Thinking of you


ellie



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Frog


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Hi Guys,


Thanks for all your support once again, it helps so much.


I feeling a little better now, not quiet my normal self yet but better than I was.


Just though I would update you, thsnkyou


FRog



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