People come and People go

liz · Experienced Member

People come and People go

claudine · Moderator

hey lizzy,

I know what you mean but i don't plan on going anywhere for awhile

Frog · Experienced Member

Hi Liz,

I have been struggling with this too, I have posted "is it me", i feel the support but also isolated and left behind as I always was never part of the gang.

But I think we all feel that somehow, I think it's a rection to what happened, we feel singled out, and rejected at the sametime, I am so scared of being left behind to.

I know how you feel, but I think I will always need this site.

So I am sticking around too.

Frog

leckie · Senior Member

hi liz

i can understand what you are saying but in away that would be a good thing when we learn to stand on our own without needing hel or suport that is what we are all striveing for in life its like a childs first day at school you have relied on your parents being there but all of a sudden they are not you are on your own, but the one good thing is they are there at the end of the day for you ( i am not including abusing parents in this just so called normal ones ) like HAVOCA will allways be here there will allways be people here to suport you and for you to help and suport them,

hope i haven't offeded anyone

take care all john

spanglemaker · Veteran Member

Hi Liz,

I am here too, and I plan to stay around. Having found this place a few weeks ago it is wonderful to be able to share feelings/thoughts. For the first time in my life, you lot are people I can be with (albeit in a 'virtual' sense) and know that you will have a much deeper understanding of where I am coming from, and will not judge me. Although I don't get to log on as much as I would like (limited funds mean that I need to watch the time I am on line), I really do value our contact, and would like to think some lasting friendships will ensue. Who knows, people do come and go, but also some stay and develop deeper bonds. Perhaps it is a matter of trusting that we are no longer alone in the ways that we might have been when we were small. I can relate to that awful sense of loneliness, of not being a part of a group. When I see teenagers roaming around happily together I still feel pangs of envy - I wonder how that would have felt to be so supported, to belong.

In time we will all grow and change. What a privilege to share that journey together. I hope we can all be friends for the good times as well as the bad.

Spanglemaker

liz · Experienced Member

Thanks guys for replying. For managing to work out what I was struggling to say means much. I'm very glad that you'll be staying around for now. I need you people. Need to know people are there. This sounds a bit naff but I'll risk it anyway..... This forum thingy has been one of the best moves I've made in a long time. The support and friendship and reaching out and acceptance of others - (Acceptance of me) is fairly mind boggling.

It's good to share this journey of mine with others. Thank you for being there. And even though our shared journeys are full of pain and fear and grief and anger to name but a few - it makes it better travelling with others.

Take care all of you

liz x

segelov · Experienced Member

Hello Liz and every one else

I am also not going anywhere - just not posting much at the moment - not enough hours in the day or night.

So much happening in my life right now, my daughters treatment is not going well, she hates dialysis, her blood pressure is going up and up, she hates the fact that in order to live she will have to have her arm disfigured, another procedure to have another fistula made as the last one has now failed, so she is dialysing using a neck line. She is currently dialysing twice a week but it will soon be three times.; and while this is all going on I have to a vey large degree to keep a lid on my problems, so I post occasionaly, but I read far more often then that, how I wish that I could make it all better for all of us! Oh why is life so hard and so unfair?

Apologies if I sound sorry for myself. (Of course I am feeling sorry for myself insteadof getting up and doing - oh how I hate that side of me!)

Take care of yourselves

-- Edited by segelov at 14:56, 2004-10-13

rob · Veteran Member

Hi to everyone

I agree with all that's been said. I'm not going either. This site is great! (thanks to all who contributed and especially the visionaries who started it!). When any of us move on and grow, I hope we remember those that are "left behind" and "those to come." I would feel it my duty to help anyone in our situation. So, I will always come back to this site on a regular basis for support and as a supporter. I feel that I will never forget my abuse but, I strive to deal with it and kick it's ar*e! (sorry for bad language).

Let's all grow together!!!!

Rob

claudine · Moderator

Ok, so in the spirit of growing,

can someone explain the word 'naff' to me

c

liz · Experienced Member

Hi Claudine

You just make me smile with some of your posts!....

The word 'naff' as I understand it or perhaps I don't understand it and my use of it is completely wrong - anyway....

The dictionary according to liz says :-

Naff means silly, stupid, rubblish - rubbish even! Certainly isn't a complimentary word.

Hope that makes things that bit clearer now....

How ya doin' tday then?

liz x ::

claudine · Moderator

Thanks Lizzy!

how NAFF of me!

well... maybe not, I'll try it out again later.

hangin in

c

amanda · Experienced Member

Hi Liz

Like others have said people come and go I have no intention of leaving and as I heal I hope I will remain and be more supportive to those around like people here have been to me. And when people feel ready to move away I hope they let us all know because then we will be able to share in their progress.

For me this has given me hope and support and when I am angry and raging I no longer feel alone

So it looks like I am here to stay

Take care

amanda

ouchzone · Experienced Member

I understand what you are saying. Before I went AWOL I was thinking exactly the same thing. You're braver than me. I wouldn't have posted it. Very glad you did. And I wasn't there for you. Sorry.

ouch