Is It ME?

Frog · Experienced Member

Is It ME?

claudine · Moderator

s'not (!) you frogomatic, it's part of the territory. Bites, doesn't it? Apparently, I will never believe anything positive anyone ever says about me. Maybe 'healing' is supposed to change that. It'd be nice,( I'm guessing).

But, I think we should do a weekly, 'pat on the back, hey I like youz guys fest' some of you are already doing it by letting us in on the good days as well as the bad. It brings a bit of hope, yes?

c

Lark · Senior Member

hi frog
I feel a bit like I dont belong here, like I dont belong anywhere- is that what you mean? I've always got to fight to keep posting and not run away.
I hope you're feeling clearer and having a better day.
Lark

Frog · Experienced Member

Hi Guys

Thanks for your replies,

Hey C, I think your right A weekly pat on the back sonds good to me, and what you said about shearing good things and good days I love reading that on the Gossip section it really gives me a lift.

Hi Lark, yes I guess in a way thats how I feel, but also I feel that everytime I write I am offending someone, and I feel like I never get any replies, and that sounds so selfish I just think I give out bad vivs and no one likes me. This sounds so sad and stupid and selfish and awful and I don' mean it to, I just like I am always the odd one out!

Sorry!

Frog

leckie · Senior Member

hey frog

it's not just you i felt like that all the time never kept friends or anything ( think that is because i did not want to let anyone close to me ) and i hated myself but you know what now i don't hate myself i can relax a little bit more now with new people and i feel i have a little more confidense in me, and more respect for myself so hopefully it will go on and get better,so you are not crazy or alone in the way that you feel,

take care frog

john

Frog · Experienced Member

Hi Leckie,

Just wanted to say thanks, your reply was really nice, and has given me hope.

I have been really struggling with this latley, and felt worse that I didn't get many replies, but I know I didn't want poeple to do that, but I guess I did, I guess I don't feel very good and cobfident about myself right now, but I hear what yoursaying, and it makes sense thank you once again.

You take care to

Frog

ouchzone · Experienced Member

Hi Frog

Re:

I often think I may contridick myself alot but thats becuase of the masks I feel iagree with things and then when someone else say s something I agree with that point of view.

I used to do that. I was taught to agree. That I was always wrong. That it was rude to contradict. Then I got uncomfortable doing it. Didn't know who I was. Very gradually with a lot of effort I started to say what I wanted to (within reason)

Re: feel as though no one likes me,

I was told by my mother and brother that people didn't want me. Because I'd been taught to agree with people, if I became myself they wouldn't want me because I wasn't like them. I didn't share mainstream interests, football, pop music so I was a bore anyway. I still have problems relating to people. I think I just accept that i'm not a likeable person then I don't have to fight it and get exhausted.

Some people lead you to agree with them by saying things like 'XX is a nice person, isn't he/she?' It's really hard to say 'no' then. I was taught it's rude not to respond too. So it's like being forced to agree. So I tell myself the rules are wrong and it should be OK not to comment. If they think I'm rude that's their problem. I'd rather be left alone than forced into lies.

Some people imply critisicm over the silliest things. If they like strong tea then you should too. When this kept happening to me I began to dread being offered a cup of tea. How crazy is that? So I started saying, 'Some people like stong tea but I prefer mine weak'. I gave out 'strong body language' which contradicted the implied 'people who like weak tea are weak'.

Don't let em shove you around with words and body language. Easy to say, hard to do I know. Think it's the result of being ill treated that causes fears won't be liked but I think it happens to non abused people too. My main abuser told me I was shy and shy people were self-centred 'cos they only thought about the impression they made on others instead of other people. But she was the one who was obsessed with her reputation and sacrificed mine to make herself look good. I wasn't talking it wasn't safe to talk. When I did talk she attacked me.(verbally/emotionally etc.). Telling somebody who is shy that there're bad is hardly going to cure them!

I like you and you've got a colourful sense of humour. I think I read somewhere that frogs have green blood. Or was it blue.

I think I can feel a joke coming on. Yes. Here it comes.

One day a woman went for a bath and the door bell rang. So she missed her caller but later she found a card from the meter reader. Not long afterwards when she was in the bath again the postman called with a parcel. So she had to collect it later from the delivery office. The third time a friend called so she missed tea, biscuits and gossip. The following week she bumped into her next door neighbour on the street. They exchanged greetings, 'How are you?' the woman said. 'Lonely replied the neighbour. Nobody comes to visit me anymore.' 'Try taking a bath,' the first woman said. Now they are not on speaking terms.

I think that's what you call a clean joke!

ouch