Not very good at having fun

liz · Experienced Member

Not very good at having fun

rob · Veteran Member

Hi Liz

I suppose as we grow up we loose the sense of imagination and fantasy. It is easy as a child but as an adult!!!

The prob is how do we regain this sense? I recently went skiing for the first time in my life, I built snowpeople (ahem!), had a snowball fight with my partner and did stupid things! It was the best time I've ever had! I came back home and now I'm 9-5 boring man!!! Oh, how I long for the child again. The truth, as I see it, is we have to find it from within us. It is there!

Here's a snowball in your mush!

Rob

leckie · Senior Member

hi liz

i dont think you are the only one to be like this, i find i verry hard to let go and relax i feel i have to be sensible all the time about the only time i did relax and not care was when i had a few drinks but then i seemed to go over the top, but i can usually do silly things with kids but normally when there is no one around to see us i like being stupd sumtimes it is fun especially when you see the children having fun too, i wish i could just do it without having any inahbitions hope it will come one day and i also think it is because my childhood was taken from me so i dont know how to be one.

take care liz

john

amanda · Experienced Member

Hello all

I sometimes wish I can join in but I am not able my children as they have grown up have given such encouragement and I really have wanted to join in but don't know how.

I sometimes wonder how my children manage to enjoy life so much because I am a hopeless role model.

The children always say I have a good sense of humour but am too protective of myself to let it go I know it sometimes sneaks out then scurries back super fast maybe that is my way of keeping safe.

Take care

Amanda

Lark · Senior Member

Hi
I cant relax either.
I didnt even know I couldnt relax until I started seeing a counsellor who noted that I get panic attacks in situations where I should be most relaxed- like just sitting watching telly. Gradually through therapy I've learned to relax when I'm on my own but I still cant relax in the company of others and just have fun. There's maybe one person I can truly relax with and I'll be silly with her but that is it.
I'm hoping I'll be able to extend that to include others but it is so hard! I think I have to let my guard down in order to do it and that is so scary!

I sometimes think there is something really wrong with me and I'm seeing a specialist soon but I'm fairly positive about getting there.
It just looks so fun when other people are obviously so carefree and having a ball and that has to be a powerful motivator!