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spanglemaker


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Hello all


I am new here, and after a few days of wondering what on earth I am doing I have realized that I would very much like some positive support. For so long I have been the 'strong' one, the person everyone else could be sure to turn to to get a shoulder to cry upon, etc. All this and I never asked much for myself - indeed I have a knack of getting myself into situations where I end up with nothing. After some difficult therapy I am now starting to get in touch with my feelings - today I seem to be flooded with tears (something I find utterly humiliating, a grown woman bursting into tears in public - I can almost feel the wack around the head that I would have got for such an awful display when I was a child).


Without going into more details why, I could do with a big hug from someone - is that sort of thing possible over the internet, a sort of virtual hug?  


Thanks


Spanglemaker


 


 



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liz


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Dear Spangle maker


((((((((((((((((((Spanglemaker)))))))))))))))


Someone else who is into hugs!  I'm pleased about that - pleased that I'm not the only one round here who requires lots of them. 


I'm envious of you because of your ability to cry.  And I felt for you when you talked about the memories of childhood tears.  I can kind of identify with that except in my case i was told to pull myself together or 'what are you crying for?'.  No hugs or comfort there. 


Glad you've joined us here.  In the fortnight that I've been posting I've never felt so well supported and accepted and heard.  It has made so much difference.  I do sometimes feel alone but knowing that others will be there for me - wow!


Hugs are so  important.  I hope you feel well hugged. I wish you well on your journey.  


Liz x 



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jem


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Well you two I have long arms and so will give you both a big hug with lots of happy thoughts coming your way. I hope it helps.


(((((((((((((((((((((((((((Spanglemaker and Liz))))))))))))))))))))))))))))



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Hi Spanglemaker,


Not sure i've said 'hello' to you yet, so hi


Giving you a big gentle hug ((((((((Spanglemaker)))))))))


Take gentle care, Raindancer



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amanda


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Hello Spanglemaker and Liz


I'm not very good on the hugs but would like to learn like the idea of virtual hugs as much as Jamies virtual cup of tea the other day


So here goes to you both((((((((((((((()))))))))))))))))


and heres a teddy to keep you safe I like teddies



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Take Care


Amanda



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jane


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spanglemaker,


a hug sounds great, i think im in need of one also.


heres mine everyone (((((((((((((((((all)))))))))))))


hope thats how its done!


jane



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spanglemaker


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Hello Jane, Amanda, Raindancer, Liz, and Jem,


Nice to meet you all.Thank you so much for the wonderful hugs.  They really helped. Thanks Amanda for the teddy, yes I like them too. My battered old bear often seemed like my only friend when I was small.


The idea of 'virtual hugs' is much easier than the 'in the flesh' variety, but they have been received as being just as real. Comfort and nurturing is something I find so very difficult to ask for (like most things I really would like to have or try). I was half expecting to be told that I was being stupid and to leave the forum for more 'important' stuff. Thankyou for proving my expectations totaly wrong. Here's one back for you all


  ((((((((((((((((((((Jem, Liz,Raindancer, Amanda and Jane)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))


As I am beginning to let myself cry after years of being unable to I would like to say to Liz that should you ever feel sad that it is really ok. You don't need a reason - I am there with you


Love and light


Spanglemaker


 


 


 


 


 



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((((((((Spanglemaker))))))))))) Thank you for hug...and another for you (without having to ask this time) because they are important


 



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