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ouchzone


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Is abusing addictive?
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When I was a teenager I started to think that my main abuser was getting addicted to abusing. Like gambling or something, taking increasing risks. The abuse became more extreme and started happening in front of my Dad but he was afraid to do anything about it I think. And my brother began assaulting me verbally and physically in front of her. They probably know it's destructive but it makes them feel good (why else would they do it?) and like a drug they need more and more of the stuff to get the desired effect. I used to ignore the provocation so she had to go to greater lengths to get any response. But inside the damaging effects were ruining my health big time. I suspect she was then terrified of the truth getting out so she kept telling the social worker I was treating her badly and using threats and other means to keep me quiet. I don't think she could stop abusing. Then just after I left home she got really ill for a while.


What are others thoughts on abusive behaviour being addictive?


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jem


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Hi Ouch, interesting post.


My uncle abused me in a flat above a private club ( a pub for members of the catholic community!)


Over the course of three years he got more "adventurous" (hope you can understand that word, dont mean to offend).


His 2 children were in bed at the time, so he was taking enormous risks at that time of being disturbed. But as time went on he would follow me into toilets, behind the bar and would assault me in the pub after closing time when there was only me and him there. This was also risky as his wife was upstairs. I think the fear of being caught made it more exciting for him.


So rather than being addictive, I think my abuser loved the "fear factor" of doing what he did and not being caught. I think that is the addictive part, to go one step further.


Interesting post though Ouch.


Take care    Jem



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