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leckie


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i can not make any excusses for what i have done to her but i feer i am responsible for emotionally abusing jill in no way did i intend this to happen but the more i think about what i have done the more i think i have


i've lied to her to keep her at bay even though i knew she was the only one that could ever help me get my abuse out and deal with it i know i was driving her crazy wiyh the lies and they got worse as time went on as i was a coward and could not own up to the lies i had to make her find out for herself which now i know was cruel but at the time i did not think i was just being to selfish and did not want to lose jill i love her and allways will but but it got to the stage where jill actually thought she was going crazy she even went to the doctors but i still could not tell her as much as i would have loved to i couldn't all the lies one after the other and they got wors because i seemed to exagurate them but i think it was so she could find out that i was lieing to her i felt so guilty lieing i never really thought about what it was doing to jill i do now and i really must apologise to her and everyone for it so maybe i did become an abuser i dont know, so gillian i really am so sorry darling for doing this to you please forgive me


i also apologise to you all for abusing jill i'm sorry


john


 



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John.


I believe if you wont to work out your issues with Jill.I feel you should both get in to theraphy together.I hope you are already in therapy sounds like you have your own issues to. Sometimes we do not mean to hurt the people we care about but we do.And it is there choice if they forgive us or not. All relationships take work its just if we wont to but the energy into them to make them work.And that takes two.


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John,
That took great courage on your part to admit that. Good for you. I'm sorry for both you and Jill and I hope you can both work through it and find a better place for each of you.

All the best,
J.

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Hi John


I thing it is fantastic that you know that you made a mistake and you want to apologise. I think you will feel very good after you tell Jill face to face that you are sorry. If she still not ready to meet yyou over a cup of tea, how about writing a letter? you can poor all your feelings in it and you will feel great after and if she answers you will feel greater. But be asure if no answer comes you will understand that she is not ready yet and she has the right to be.As you know we are individuals with different reactions and you know Jill better. If you think my suggetion is suitable go for it. Good luck.


Sue



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