Suicide Threats

HAVOCA · Trustee

Suicide Threats

ouchzone · Experienced Member

Sorry Jamie I must be being thick. I still have trouble understanding things sometimes. Is it OK to say/hint that sometimes I feel suicidal. I try to make it in the past when I do it and don't use the actual word. Also is it Ok to say someone is responsible for the abuse/neglect or is that 'attacking' and so unacceptable?

HAVOCA · Trustee

Hi

Thanks, you've raised some pertinent points that do need clarifying.

You shouldn't refer to suicide as an action, and only refer to it as a feeling if it is in the past tense. For example 'I may commit suicide if this doesn't get better' is banned. It's OK to mention 'I felt suicidal, or I had suicidal thoughts'. You should refrain from saying you feel suicidal, because that places the burden onto other people. Some people may feel they then become responsible for you. We have to try and protect everyone.

Attacking the abuser is absolutely fine AND EXPECTED! LOL.

Does this answer your questions?

Warm regards

Jamie

ouchzone · Experienced Member

Thanks Jamie. If I get it wrong please tell me. (I'm sure you will anyway) I don't want to stress out others or be chucked off. I still have trouble with handling making mistakes after years of trying to be perfect (& still being blamed).

Sorry to be thick again. I'm not used to PC speak. What does LOL mean? Is there a translator onsite or elsewhere.

jem · Veteran Member

It was my post that has been removed, and I would like to publicly apologise to anyone who may have read it.

I am appalled and ashamed of myself for posting it but at the time I was in a difficult situation.

I know it is hard for us all and many of us are at differing stages of healing.

I am so sorry to anyone who I might have offended.

Please accept my apologies.

jem

Raindancer · Veteran Member

Hi Jem,

I cant speak on behalf of anyone else...but your post didnt offend me. I honestly dont think its about offending anyone, so please dont feel ashamed (which is easier said than done i know). How you feel is real, and there is no shame in that. However In real life support at such times is the better option for you, and i do hope your able to access some.

I hope you wont be to hard on yourself and take care,

Raindancer

segelov · Experienced Member

Dear Jem

Do not be so hard on yourself, but do look after yourself, treat yourself gently and with compassion.

I sincerely hope that you can find the path to healing.

Joshua · Member

jem - never be sorry for expressing how you are feeling as many of us can understand why you would feel like this. i hope you are feeling better than you were before and in a more of a fighting mood, dont let the bastards win. is swearing allowed, am i in trouble to? oops ! take care always mate xxx

amanda · Experienced Member

Hi Jem

Please do not punish yourself you did not offend us but what Jamie does is protects us all because some things can trigger others. Believe me I have been where you were many a times and most probably will be there again so stop beating yourself up and I will look forward to your next post

Take care

Amanda

Sue · Veteran Member

Hi everyone,

I gave myself a break for I have migraine out of worrying about each and everyone of you. Now it seemed I missed something and it is about suicide?

I was there and I was very depressed then, and now I think I was in a moment of deep weakness. If you think about it how strong we are having been through hell as children then adult. I am not a quitter, and if each of you search deep inside you will find a non quitter personality. Just keep reminding yourself how strong you are. Everyone has a moment or two of feeling down and I mean those who lived normal life and they say there is no way out and whine, but we know we are as strong as a rock which may get worn out with age but who does not. If my body gets old and weak my soul will still be strong and good news only now I feel my head getting rid of the migraine.Told you so, I'm a rock.

Sue

jane · Experienced Member

Hi Jem,

please know that you are amongst friends here, as already said, your feelings aren't offensive,just deeply concerning which is why i believe jamie removed it from our sight.

i have been where you are, to such a level, if my daughter had notbeen in the next room, nothing would have stopped me. you have in the past offered me support, i want you to know i will listen anytime, at the moment, things are hard for me too, so i log on regularly, i have found so much support here i didn't think it was possible.

please take care of yourself, please keep talking and this level of pain, will, in time change to a lesser more copeable (not sure thats a word) level.

you are worth it, you will fight, and i want to see you write again! (hope that wasn't too harsh)

stay safe jem

jane