PHYSICAL SEXUAL ABUSE ANGER

michelle · Senior Member

PHYSICAL SEXUAL ABUSE ANGER

hazel · Veteran Member

not sure about that michelle, sexual abuse is also a form of physical abuse. i think people are affected in different ways by similar things so its kind of hard to say. i guess whatever form abuse takes it leaves the victim feeling powerless. i think that will almost always turn into anger later on.

Hazel x

feemarie · Senior Member

I'm a survivor of sexual abuse and while i dont know if i have more anger than survivors of other abuse i know my anger is pretty huge! I think we are all angry at what has happened to us wether that be sexual, physical, emotional or any abuse. However i think the difference with sexual abuse is that your innocence is taken away from you as a child and you can never get that back and i think thats where the anger comes from.

Dunno its hard to say really, Its crazy to me that any of us have to be thinking about these things. I think we all have a right to a certain amount of anger at whatever has been done to us as children, its not fair that any of us should be going through this. At least we can take comfort in each other now, i guess.

You are all in my heart and thoughts

fee

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Frog · Experienced Member

Hi

Iam a survovor of sexual abuse I feel what ever form of abuse any child has is wrong and we all react in dirrerent ways. but I am the same I have so much anger, but i am sure you do to.

I hope I am not over stepping the mark here but I feel you feel you may not have the right to feel angry as you may feel your abuse was lesser than sexual abuse and feel you may not have the rit to feel as angry. but you have every right to feel as much anger as you do, just becuase your abuse was physical it leaves the same screars. what we all feel we have a right to, no one unfortunialty can take that away from you, what i mean is, it's your right to feel angry.

The persons of whom were in care of you were wrong they were adults and should know better.

I hope I haven't offended you in anway but felt i had to say it.

My thoughts are with U

Take care

Frog

Sallyjack · Veteran Member

The amount of anger is not related in anyway to the typy of abuse experienced.

I suppose I am at a very different place to many here, in that I am unable to express my anger. That is a sweeping statement, and occasionally I do, but in the form of tears, or my need to hit a brick wall which I suspect could be seen as self abuse. But in the main I will swallow anger.

I know I was physically and emotionally abused, and suspect that I may also have been sexually abused and may be more, but I have not definite memory of any of this. The psychological abuse I recieved was sufficient to bury my feelings.

This is only a suggestion, to provide further thought about the subject, that perhaps a factor in the amount of anger a person feels is to do with the amount of anger that may be expressed if abuse hadn't been a factor in that persons life. We all know calm people who seem to ride everthing that life throws at them, and others who rant and rave at the drop of a hat.

I feel I want to say something else, but the words won't come at the moment, but if I work it out I will post again on this.

michelle · Senior Member

Hi Frog

Read your post.Forgive me for saying this but in some way I still believe sexual abuse is more traumatic.Because you have been violated and I do not feel that I have.My brother and I both feel the same way he also suffered physical abuse.

I have all my memories of abuse I really don't think about it.I know I have the right to be angry but honestly I just do not feel that.

And I am not trying to down play my abuse.My heart just goes out to all of you who have suffered sexual abuse.I can feel each ones pain as I read there post.In some ways I feel guilty for being on this site.

I to suffer from abuse issues but mine are minor compared to all of you.I feel my biggest issue is trust.And always very suspicious of people wondering if there beating there children.I kinda don't trust people with there own kids.Sounds kinda crazy. Thats on the lines where my problems are.

Thank you for being concerned about me .

Always here

Mchelle

feemarie · Senior Member

michelle,

i hate that you feel guilty for being on this site, you have as much right as any of us. you obviously feel you need it or you wouldnt be here!

you say your issues with abuse are minor compared to ours and your main issue is trust. you also seem to think that we who suffered sexual abuse have no similarities to you, but i suffered sexual abuse and i echo your issues about not trusting people with there own kids. i always watch parents with children and read stuff into it where there is probably nothing and worry about the children and wether they are being abused. so its not so crazy aftwer all!

maybe we arent so different as you thought?!

take gentle care

fee

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michelle · Senior Member

Thanks alot Feemarie I needed that.

Thanks for listening

Michelle

Brujah81 · Newbie

I was a victim of all three types of the abuse, i was very angry and for a while i self harmed so i could turn the anger into something more physically.. so that i could see my pain and anger. I dont do this now, but i was very angry, now i dont think i am, i dont feel anger for my abuser i feel more pity, that he is pathetic and when i see him in my mind during flashbacks i try to turn him into another form, a pathetic spineless worm.. i dont know this is my technique i dont know if it would work or not for others

Blessings

Kelly

amanda · Experienced Member

Hi michelle

Abuse is abuse it does not matter how it happened and in what form we all have a right to anger and anger can be displayed in many different ways.

Take care

Amanda